I’d say you get around 25 minutes after getting engaged before the questions start coming.
When are you thinking of getting married?
Do you think here or abroad?
How many Bridesmaids will you have?
Don’t worry if you don’t have the answers to all of these questions straight away.
Even if you do still own a A4 ruled notebook you made when you were 11 planning with a detailed breakdown of your nuptials to your then-crush Dean Dewhurst (little shout-out for you there Dean, it could have been you fella!)
Things may have changed.
It’s unlikely the Backstreet Boys will actually play at my wedding.
Try not to feel pressured, and remember, it’s supposed to be fun! We are just starting to book things this week, but if you need a little helping hand on where to get started, look no further.
- Announce Your Engagement
I know, I know, it’s now the third blog post in a row I have posted that picture.
We got engaged at the Top of the Rockerfeller at night, so most of our friends and family were asleep (aside from my Mum, who hadn’t slept properly waiting for the call in a week).
In the morning (first thing) we messaged our close friends and family to let them know and decided to wait a while before posting it on social media so we could take some time to soak up the joy.
When we did post the ring pic two days later, it had properly sunk in and we were just so excited (love to the amaze nails lady in the Arndale who pimped up my manicure before we went btw, in reality I have the hands of a small child).
Announcing your engagement is such a personal thing and there are a variety of creative ways to do it. Here are some of my favourite ideas:
2. Decide What Kind of Wedding You Would Like and When
Big or small?
This year or next?
City or Country?
Get a rough idea of what you both want from your big day. Remember, it’s all about you so don’t feel restricted by family expectations or old traditions you feel are out-of-date.
3. Buy Yourself a Wedding Planner Book
The boy bought me a wedding book for Christmas and it has become my BIBLE. Here are some other really cute planners:
4. Compile A Rough Guest List and Set a Budget
There are a lot of things to consider when setting a budget.
Will you be paying for the wedding yourself or will parents be chipping in? Depending on the size of the guest list and the funds available you might want to wait a little longer to save for the day you have always dreamed of.
A guest list is crucial when you first start looking at venues as many have a minimum and maximum number required to book. It doesn’t have to be concrete, you need a rough estimate.
My fiancee has a slightly strange obsession with spreadsheets. If you do too (lucky you!) rope him in and make a list of the top 5 things that you want to splash out on (the dress, a good band etc) and things you could maybe save money on or make yourself.
4. Get Yo’self a Pinterest Board
Or, if like me you have secretly been planning your wedding for the past 5 years, just change the privacy settings on your already-pretty-comprehensive ‘secret’ board.
If you don’t know (where the hell have you been?!) Pinterest is an online pinboard that allows you to digital compile a mood board of ideas, colours and themes for your big day. It is also a cool way to involve family and friends who can send you things you might like.
There are also tons of wedding planning apps, like WeddingHappy and the AppyCouple (you knew i’d love that one, right?) that can help you, along with the classics like Brides Magazine you’ve been dying to be allowed to pick up in the newsagents without looking like a nutcase.
5. Start Looking at Venues
Now for the fun bit.
If you are still unsure of what kind of wedding you want, book to see a variety of venues. This will give you a great idea of cost too, as those numbers start adding up all the stuff you never realised you might need.
A word of warning: I was shocked how restrictive some venues where in terms of being able to customise your own day. Many insist you use their vendors and caterers, so make sure you love all aspects of the place you pick and don’t compromise on something that is important to you.
Most weddings take 9-12 months to plan (we’re doing ours in 10 months, just for a challenge!) but the timescale is completely up to you.
Here are a couple of rough checklists to consider:
We are just about to confirm a date and book the venues this week, so i’ll keep you posted! The most important thing is to keep it relaxed and have fun, it really is such an amazing time.